Whatever happens, you have the freedom to choose your response (回应). One of the most important things you choose is what you say. Your language is a good indicator of how you see yourself. A proactive (主动的) person uses proactive language – I can, I will, I prefer, etc. A reactive person uses reactive language – I can’t, I have to, if only. Reactive people believe they are not responsible for what they say and do – they have no choice.