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Q

Dear Daniel,

There is a boy in my class whom the other students think I like. I don’t really like him that way, but the other kids still make fun of me for this. It makes me really mad. What can I do? Cathy

A

Dear Cathy,

That’s a tough (棘手的) situation! You can insist that you aren’t romantically (浪漫地) interested, but perhaps you will hurt his feelings if you say this too strongly. Just like you, he didn’t ask to be the subject of schoolyard gossip and teasing (取笑).

What can you do? First, take a deep breath. Remember that you’re still in high school. This teasing is just a part of growing up. Adults don’t tease each other about romance.

You also say they make you angry. I remember a time that I got angry. When I was 11, I was a small kid. One day, some older kids took the hat off of my head. They played keep-away, throwing it to their friends whenever I got close. I was so angry! I cried as I chased them, but they were too big and too fast. The angrier I became, the more they laughed at me. Then I understood. I stopped running. I walked away without a word. As I walked, I worried I’d never get my hat back.

Guess what? They brought me my hat immediately. One of the boys even apologized.

Don’t play their stupid game. Don’t get angry. That’s what they enjoy the most. It’s their power over you.

You can take away their power. In English, we say, “own the situation”. Show these people that their opinions don’t matter.

When they tease you, stay calm and say, “So what? Maybe I do like him!”

I can’t promise that nobody will ever tease you again. But if you show that you respect yourself, they will probably find a new target (目标). Daniel