JUST ASK | 成长不烦恼
本文作者： Daniel Daugherty
Q Dear Daniel, I shared a secret with my cousin who is my age. I asked him not to tell anyone, but he told his mother. I got very angry and argued with him. And I was afraid my parents would find out my secret. What should I do now? Camil A Dear Camil, I was upset to read your letter. Your cousin betrayed (背叛) your trust, and it may cause trouble in your home life. Every family is different. Ideally (理想地), families don’t need to keep secrets from each other. Unfortunately, not every family has that situation. So I think that young people are right to keep some secrets from their parents. That said (即便如此), I don’t know what kind of secret this is. Is it about your school grades? Did you do something risky? Whatever it is, I will assume (假设) that you had a good reason to keep this secret. So now, you know the best way to keep a secret. Second, how close is your relationship with your aunt? She knows your secret, so maybe, you can talk to her about it. Explain yourself and ask her for advice. She might be understanding. She may be able to help you and even agree not to tell your parents. If that’s not possible, you should think about your parents. Will they want to hear this news from your aunt? Maybe it will be better if you tell them. They might be upset by your secret, but they will probably be glad that you came to them. Explain your situation. Then ask them for advice. You fear punishment, but maybe they will respect your honesty. Most parents want to guide their children to make better choices. Daniel |  |
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